Why Aikido?
by Ed Sullivan
As the father of not one, but two children who study Aikido, the first question
that comes to mind is: Why Aikido? Why make such a commitment to teaching children a
Martial Art?
To begin with, I talked to Blake and Isabel's mother for about two months before
she agreed to make the commitment of time and resources. Since we live in Charlotte,
it is a four hour or more per week commitment of time out of an already busy
schedule.
The first point that I made was that children do get into fights - with their
friends. Aikido stresses conflict resolution as well as defensive reactions to
violence. Another reality for children is the bullies that one finds in school as
well as on buses. By having knowledge of Aikido, a child does not feel trapped with
no options. I do not mean that a child would have to use Aikido physically, but
rather would have this self-confidence to tell a teacher about bullies.
Second was the study of Aikido as it relates to sports. A large percentage of
children are engaged in some form of sports. The study of Aikido makes children very
aware of where their bodies are in space. This is evident from Isabel's amazing
skill at horseback riding (Arabians) and Blake's phenomenal reaction time in
baseball. The owner of the Arabian horses informed me that she has never met a child
with Isabel's sense of balance and body control. Plus, in soccer, Isabel weaves her
way through the opposing team's defense like a hot knife through warm butter.
Blake's speed at getting out of the batter's box insures him either the first or
second batting position in baseball. I showed Sensei a photograph that was taken of
Blake getting out of the way of an inside fastball. The parents were amazed to see
how Blake kept his balance as he sank to the ground. Even more incredible was during
this year's all-star games a child at least six feet tall strove into the batter's
box. This little leaguer hit a screaming line drive at third base where Blake was
playing. I honestly believe if anyone else were playing third base there would have
been a serious injury. With the speed of light, Blake reached out and barehanded the
ball. If this were a movie, he would have caught the ball. In the real world, he let
go of it as if it was a hot potato. The umpire was in total amazement of what Blake
had done.
Finally, it is the philosophy of Aikido that they take home from the dojo
that is my goal. They will walk with an air of self-confidence. As for Isabel, I
hope the study of Aikido will keep her from having a victim mentality (powerless in
situations) and from succumbing to the Ophelia Complex. The Ophelia Complex refers
to the conscious decision of teenage girls to do poorly in school so that boys will
like them. As for Blake's teenage years, temptations come too fast for teenage boys
to think about them. Teenage boys' ethics and morals must be ingrained in them in
order to avoid costly mistakes in judgment. These errors in judgment that I refer to
could have life-long ramifications.
I have the desire to be present when my two blue-belt children are awarded their
Black Belts. Not for the acknowledgment of accomplishment that the awarding of this
rank would confer, but rather I shall feel comfortable of their future in this
world.
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